Tuesday, December 31, 2019

A Prayer for continued service (on my semi-retirement)

Eternal God, 

Who has been my companion, along with family and friends

Throughout my 38 1/2 years as a rabbi, 

Be with me 

As I begin a time of semi-retirement 

While still serving my congregation as rabbi over the next six months. 

Help me use my time wisely, 

To turn voluminous collections of resources 

Into their essence, 

A manageable amount of materials 

That will accompany me in the coming years. 

Enable me to look back with gratitude, 

Not only for my time as a rabbi, 

But for the opportunity to participate 

as a dedicated Jewish community member 

As a choir member, 

A leader, 

A teacher, 

A student, 

A colleague 

A partner in sustaining Jewish life

And a friend 

Before and after my ordination. 

Help me to continue to be that person 

As I learned from my parents, my family

And my best teachers along the way. 

May I see this new chapter

As a fresh opportunity 

To define myself 

By the values that I have been taught

And tried emulate and practice 

For all these years:

Humility, respect, decency, justice, commitment, 

Love and peace. 

God of my days and years, 

Guide me along this uncharted path

So that I may continue to serve and give 

To the human family

And to this world

That needs us all to step forward

To shape a hopeful, bright and secure future.  

Leadership - Our Humble Responsibility - Facebook Post on December 28, 2019

I have never seen an earthly leader 
As God-sent. 
As a Messiah. 
As a chosen one. 
Everyone one of US chooses
To do right. 
To do good. 
To stand up. 
To join together. 
To show respect.
To be honest and truthful.
To be humble by the tasks of ending conflict and making peace. 
Why should we not expect the same of our leaders? 
So many times, people have tried to cast questionable statements and actions of 
Leaders they see as “chosen ones” 
In a light that excuses them their foibles
Because they want to see them as
Upright, good, honest, and respectful even of those who disagree with them. 
 Seven nights we have been lighting the Chanukah menorah/Chanukiah
Watching its increasing light 
And gazing as its multicolored candles burn down 
Leaving us to consider what it means to us to remember 
An ancient fight for freedom 
Not just for our ancestors
But also for us. 
For me, it means
Acceptance and equality 
Not ridicule
Not narrowness
Not an insistence that there is only one way to believe or to think
Whether that relates to a faith
Or to an approach to one particular person. 
God is God
We are reflections of God
When we let the holiness, goodness and light of God in. 
We will know where God is
When we see that light 
In each other’s eyes.

Jewish Diversity, Jewish Responsibility - Facebook Post, December 29, 2019 - after Monsey Chanukah attack

Jews in the United States attend a wide range of congregations from different movements, and some Jews are not affiliated with a particular branch of Judaism.   I am sure that many American Jews have at least some relatives who are members of Orthodox communities like the ones that have experienced attacks in recent weeks, including last night in Rockland County, the area where one of my first cousins raised her family in the Ultra-Orthodox community (in Spring Valley).  Some may think these violent attacks only touch one part of the Jewish community when they happen.  They don’t.  Jews are like an extended family. These attacks are hateful and anti-Semitic, and well beyond just being based on fear of difference.   I haven’t said anything about this yet, but after last night’s attack, it’s time.  THIS HAS TO STOP!

Rituals and Memory - Column for Las Cruces Bulletin on January 3, 2020

        I have recently been thinking a lot about rituals and memory. 

    It might be due to the fact that my wife Rhonda and I just lit candles for the second night of Chanukah and exchanged gifts with each other.   On the first night of Chanukah, a FaceTime call with our son, daughter-in-law and grandchildren extended our reach beyond the confines of southern New Mexico to bring our family together. 

    I might be thinking about rituals because I recently attended the biennial convention of the Union for Reform Judaism for the 17th time.   At this conference, held in Chicago, I connected with people from all parts of my life, sang songs that I have known for many years, attended sessions that deepened my wisdom to enhance my service as a rabbi, and engaged in worship with 5000 people on the Friday evening during the convention.   Those are the main reasons I attend.  

    On the first morning of the convention, we were given choices for special visits to sites in Chicago.  As a dedicated baseball fan (the Kansas City Royals are my team), I chose the tour of Wrigley Field.  While not religious in nature, there are rituals associated with sports fans who closely follow their favorite teams.   One of those rituals is remembering landmark games and amazing accomplishments from the past.  After our tour, I told our guide about the only time I was at this storied stadium. It was a game in 1976, when I witnessed the Phillies’ Mike Schmidt homer in the top of the 10th inning (his fourth homer of the game) to break at 15-15 tie on a very windy day. The Phillies beat the Cubs 18-16.   The guide asked me, “ I have heard about that game! Was it the most historic game you ever attended?”  I had to say that it was.  

     All types of rituals and community gatherings generate memories that can last a lifetime.    Lighting Chanukah candles every year calls to mind both the present and the past.    Rhonda and I can recall lighting candles over the years in our shared home and before we met. Two of our Chanukah menorahs that we light now come from our childhood homes.  They evoke the times when the lessons we learned during our upbringing formed the foundations of who we are now.  

      At the convention in Chicago, several large panels displayed the names of every congregation (over 900) that is a member of the Union for Reform Judaism. Each congregation was represented with a leaf on a tree.   I had my photo taken with leaf that read “Temple Beth-El, Las Cruces, NM.”

      At one point, I happened to walk by as members of my home congregation in the midwest were assembling themselves for a photograph of all of them pointing to their Temple’s leaf.   I volunteered to take the photo, and had the chance to meet the youngest member of their delegation, a college student named Ben.   I know his mother, and his grandparents and my parents were active participants in the congregation together for many years.  My conversation with Ben was a ritual unto itself: a sharing of connection and memory.  

    That is why we celebrate holidays and life events, why we commemorate the lives of loved ones who have died, and why we join together as community members for important occasions.   

       May all of our our rituals, and remembrances, fill us with light, hope and joy.  

     

How do we extend a welcome? Column for the Las Cruces Bulletin on December 13, 2019

  How do we extend a welcome?

  How do we like to receive a welcome?

  On Sunday, November 24, 2019, the Temple Beth-El Social Action/Adult Education committee sponsored a special program entitled, “Welcome!  An Interfaith Conversation.”   This was the fifth year of this interreligious discussion series that brings together local community members from different faith groups to offer their insights and thoughts on a theme that is common to various traditions.

   To begin the program, Daisy Maldonado (from the Southern New Mexico Islamic Center), The Rev. Carol Tuck (retired United Methodist minister), and I shared teachings from each of our faith traditions and sacred texts.  Beginning with Abraham and Sarah welcoming three guests to their tent (who were messengers from God with a special promise about a child to be born to Sarah), we all focused on the centrality and necessity of offering warm and complete hospitality to guests who come our way.  This notion was illustrated well by verse 2 from Chapter 13 of Hebrews in the New Testament: “Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by doing that some have entertained angels without knowing it.”

   The story of Abraham and Sarah opening their tent to the three guests in Genesis Chapter 18 teaches a core set of values for showing hospitality. Be humble. Be enthusiastic. Prepare with sincerity, with speed, with an eye for presentation, and with a desire to make guests, whether expected or unexpected, feel totally comfortable and at home.

   Our small group conversations during the program focused on telling stories of when we were welcomed well, and times when the welcome could have been better.  Participants in each group developed a “hospitality primer,” with suggestions that can remind us how we can best greets guests with a generous spirit.  

    Here are some of the guidelines for hospitality that emerged from our discussions:

A smile is the very first and easiest welcome.

Look at guests (make eye contact) and let them know that you are glad to see them.

Engage them and respectfully ask them questions.

Listen to guests and become familiar with their stories and their needs

Teach others how to be hospitable by example.

Introduce the new person to other people.

Feed people and have extra food available

Show empathy and compassion (see yourself in the shoes of the guest).

Be sensitive to food and dietary needs. Don’t assume.  Ask what is needed/wanted.

Invite the guest to participate and lead.

Be respectful, and treat the guest as special and of high status.

We learn from the generations

Pay it forward:  generosity makes you feel good, when you have more than you need, share it with people who are in need.

A little gesture of kindness can change a life.

Be open, but be careful with people who show signs of aggression. Offer them safe words.  Use your instincts.

Don’t be afraid to reach out. The risk is worth taking...or what kind of world would we have?

In hospitality, you feel warm, happy and safe.  You feel valued and spread goodness.

When you welcome others, you get a gift.

  At this time of year, filled with special celebrations, and throughout the year, may we be blessed as hosts, and as guests, who exude warmth, care, and gratitude that can bring us ever closer together.

What I Learned and Experienced at the Union for Reform Judaism Biennial December 11-15, 2019 in Chicago, Illinois (From the Temple Beth-El Las Cruces Adelante Newsletter for January 2020


Temple Beth-El is part of a much larger community which is hard to imagine within the confines of our own con- gregational building. I have attended all of the biennial con- ventions beginning with 1987. The sheer number of attendees always has impressed me. Nothing in the Jewish communal world has matched, for me, the sound of 5000 people singing the Shema at the Friday evening service or revisiting popular Jewish songs and worship tunes at the song session later the same night.
The large number of attendees does prevent a partici- pant from seeing people he or she knows. One delegate from Bellingham, Washington, who lived in Las Cruces some 30 years ago (we met quite randomly at the 2011 biennial), saw me on Thursday and said to me, “Why did it take us a full day to see each other?” One of the first people I saw this year was a member of my youth group and a fellow student at my high school. I had a chance to reconnect with two col- lege contemporaries who sang in the Hillel Foundation choir I helped to direct. On the last night, I passed by the delega- tion from my home Temple where I grew up, trying to take a photo by the “leaf” with their congregation’s name. I offered to be the photographer, and then I met the youngest member of the delegation, a college student whose mom and grandparents I knew. That was yet another demonstration of “from generation to generation to generation.” I saw congregants from the Temple I served in Dayton, Ohio, who knew both Rhonda and me as young Jewish professionals. The Karol delegation was completed by our niece Samantha Tananbaum, who works in social media Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion. Many of my rabbinic and Jewish music colleagues were there as well.
With every conversation I had, TBE Las Cruces found its way onto the American Jewish map for my fellow delegates.
The sessions I attended conveyed many pearls of wisdom. Rabbi Shmuly Yanklowitz, author of Pirkei Avot: A Social Justice Commentary, lamented how empathy has lost its place as an important value, and encouraged us to uphold respect and to stand for what we believe in an authentic way. Rabbi Ariel Burger, author of Witness: Lessons from Elie Wiesel’s Classroom, noted that Elie Wiesel taught that education, coupled with memory, can enable people to stop themselves from committing atrocities of the likes that Wiesel saw during his lifetime. On Shabbat afternoon, I attended a session with Marc Freedman, author of How to Live Forever, and Laura Geller, co-author (with her late husband Richard Siegel) of Getting Good at Getting Older. Marc Freedman noted that loneliness is the single greatest threat to our well-being, at any age. Laura Geller encouraged us to LIVE a legacy, rather than just think about leaving a legacy. In an address to the convention gathering on Saturday night, Professor Deborah Lipstadt gave an excellent talk on how we should not let anti-Semitism define us, urging us to be the subjects of our Jewish identity, in control of our expression, rather than seeing ourselves as objects of scorn and hatred.
In other words, our Judaism should be about JOY and not OY.
I had the opportunity to hear many enjoyable performances of Jewish music, including Julie Silver (who visited us this past May), Dan Freelander and Jeff Klepper (creators of the “Shalom Rav” melody we sing), and many others. I heard many of the melodies we sing at Temple Beth-El dur-ing worship and other  programs throughout the biennial.
Delegates had a chance to visit famous Chicago sites on organized tours (my choice was Wrigley Field), which offered an opportunity for us to explore common interests beyond our commitment to sustaining our congregations back home.
 The URJ biennial has the potential to strengthen the foundation of our wisdom about Jewish life and to foster connections with the greater Jewish world. One of my music colleagues who attended for the first time said that there was no convention she had attended quite like this one. I urge Temple Beth-El members to consider participating in this gathering so that you too, can bring back home the special spirit of the URJ community.

Invocation - Temple Beth-El Las Cruces Board meeting - December 19, 2019

Eternal God, 

We have walked a path with You for three thousand years

Or more. 

We have celebrated Your presence in our lives. 

We have endured the contempt of others who did not understand

Our covenant with You

But at great cost.   

We have heard expressions of praise for our strength and our dedication to our heritage. 

Yet, we still experience attacks in the form of words and physical violence. 

We hear offhand comments that draw on age-old stereotypes. 

We see gravestones marked with insulting graffiti and overturned. 

Congregations have been violated by people bearing arms

By individuals destroying prayerbooks and Torah scrolls...

Even now and in the last several years. 

But these events do not define us. 

We are about...

Learning

Values

Leadership 

Shabbat 

Chanukah 

Passover 

Sukkot 

Weddings 

Bar and Bat Mitzvah celebrations 

Moments of Remembrance

Community 

Torah

Social Justice 

Love of God

And love of our fellow human beings. 

May the gifts of our heritage inspire us to contribute our wisdom and spirit

To a world that needs us 

And may you offer protection when necessary

And enable us to join with others to change hearts and minds 

So that our human family can draw ever closer together 

In respect, in cooperation, in hope, and in peace.   




  

Thursday, November 28, 2019

To My Grandchildren and Their Peers - November 2019

TO MY GRANDCHILDREN AND THEIR PEERS

How can I save the world for you? 
I know I can’t save it by myself. 
I wonder, sometimes, if the values I have taught and tried to put into practice are still guiding my brothers and sisters in the human family. 
I have seen bullying, but never thought it would be admired and supported. 
I have witnessed, and been the target of, ridicule, but I never imagined that people would so readily join in demeaning and denigrating others. 
I have seen the environment exploited without limits, without a concern for the future, and I thought that decades-long efforts to diminish that lack of care for the world would succeed.  They have, but only up to a point. 
I have seen people harbor hatred for others and participate in dehumanization and discrimination.  I thought that more members of the communities in which I have lived were opening their hearts to others in a way that would end.   And they were, but it seems that others are not ready to do the same.   
So how can I save the world for you? 
There are answers in prayers of the tradition which you are inheriting from your family and which, I know, you will willingly share.  
If God creates and re-creates the universe every day, we can find ways in which we can be God’s partners in preserving the earth to ensure its future. 
When we praise God, we are expressing wonder at the world and also showing that we are humble, acknowledging we are but a part of creation but always beloved in God’s eyes. 
When we voice our love for God through our words and actions, divine love will guide our hands, eyes, and hearts so that we will all be closer to one another.  
When we give thanks, we admit that we don’t expect to receive anything.  Simple appreciation for all that is ours in our lives can inspire us to be generous and giving to others. 
When we praise God who makes peace, we commit ourselves to suffusing the world with God’s blessings: goodness, kindness, grace, compassion, mercy, light, righteousness, and a zest for life.  
When we offer our support and assistance to people in need, we demonstrate that the teachings of our heritage are not just words.  They chart a course for our personal journey. 
So what can I do to save the world for you? 
I will do my best to treat people with decency and respect, and to hold up every person as valued and precious.  
I will perform the small acts that can preserve the world in which we live.  
I will speak in ways that will enable people to hear and consider my words and the values I espouse.   
I will answer hatred with consideration and with understanding, within and between faith communities and among people of all backgrounds.   
And I will pass these tasks to you when your time comes, for I know that you will stand for love, generosity, compassion and hope.

Monday, November 25, 2019

Welcome! Judaism on Hospitality - delivered at an Interfaith Program at Temple Beth-El, Las Cruces, NM on November 24, 2019

How do we extend a welcome? 

How do we like to receive a welcome? 

At the beginning of Genesis Chapter 18, Abraham saw three guests approaching. 

Those guests did turn out to be messengers from God who were bringing news that Sarah would finally bear a son. 

At first, though, Abraham and Sarah had no idea of that impending outcome, nor any clue as to the identity of these travelers. 

So, once these men arrived at his tent, Abraham bowed low to the ground in a gesture of sincere hospitality to these three men.

The narrative, which I read when I became Bar Mitzvah 52 years ago last Monday, continued: 

"My lords, if I have found favor in your sight, please do not pass your servant by. Let a little water be brought; then wash your feet and recline under a tree, and let me bring a bit of bread and you can restore yourselves. Then you can go on—now that you have come across your servant." And they responded: "Very well, do as you propose!”Abraham then hurried toward the tent, to Sarah, and said, "Hurry, knead three measures of wheat flour and bake some [bread-]cakes!" Abraham then ran to the herd and took a young calf, tender and sound, and gave it to the servant lad, who quickly prepared it. He took sour milk and [sweet] milk and the calf he had prepared and set [it all] before them; and as he stood over them under the tree, they ate.”

   What better primer for being welcoming could we have?  Be humble. Be enthusiastic. Prepare with sincerity, with speed, with an eye for presentation, and with a desire to make guests, whether expected or unexpected, feel totally comfortable and at home.  

  In the portion of the Torah read in synagogues around the world yesterday,  in Genesis Chapter 24, Abraham sent his servant Eliezer to find a wife for Isaac among Abraham’s kin.  Jewish tradition doesn’t always associate the value of hospitality with this passage, but there is a good reason to make that connection.   It is likely that Eliezer knew that the woman whom he would choose to be Isaac’s wife would need to be hospitable, strong and welcoming like Sarah.    Eliezer took ten of Abraham’s camels on his journey, and other men with him. He arrived at his destination at the time when the young women were drawing water at a spring near their homes.   The narrative in Genesis Chapter 24 tells what happened next: 

Eliezer prayed: "Eternal One, God of my master Abraham, please bring me luck today, and do a kindness for my master Abraham. Here I am standing at the water-fount, and the daughters of the townspeople are going forth to draw water; the girl to whom I say, ‘Tip your pitcher and let me drink,' and who replies, 'Drink; and let me give water to your camels, too'—let her be the one You have designated for Your servant Isaac; that is how I shall know that You, O God, have done a kindness for my master."  Before he was done praying, Rebekah, who had been born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, wife of Abraham's brother Nahor, was going forth with her pitcher on her shoulder. She was an exceedingly beautiful girl, of marriageable age, whom no man had yet known. She went down to the spring, filled her pitcher, and went up.   The slave ran toward her and said, "Let me sip a little water from your pitcher." And she replied, "Drink, sir!" Quickly she lowered her pitcher on her hand and let him drink. The drinking done, she said, "I will draw some water for your camels, too, till they are done drinking." Quickly she emptied her pitcher in the trough and she again ran to the well to draw water, drawing water for all his camels.”   Once Rebekah told him who she was,  Eliezer again prayed to God, expressing gratitude for being led not only to the right place, but to the right person. 

   Rebekah totally fulfilled Eliezer’s expectations.  It was meant to be.  As he had prayed, she offered him water and gave water to his camels without having to be asked. Rebekah didn’t even ask who this stranger was, and she was still willing to fulfill his request.  Her hospitality was quick and unconditional.  She requested nothing in return.   She was kind to Eliezer and also kind to his camels.   She was generous and selfless.   Who could ask for more from a future wife for Isaac?   

   I found online the statement of a restaurant owner from Denver named Bryan Dayton that outlined his rules for hospitality in his business.   He cited five central guidelines for how to treat customers, standards that can apply to communities as well: 

1) MIND YOUR MANNERS.

2) TURN UP THE EMPATHY AND SELF-AWARENESS.

3) SHIFT YOUR ATTENTION TO THE GUEST. 

4) TAKE PRIDE IN YOUR WORK. 

5) FINISH STRONG.  

In each of the biblical stories, the strong finish came not only from the one who was showing hospitality but also from the guests.  Sarah and Abraham were promised a child by their three visitors.   Because of Eliezer’s somewhat-chance meeting with Rebekah, she gained a husband and a position as the wife and mother of a spiritual patriarch. 

   Both of these stories demonstrate that because we can’t always know the significance of those who might come into our presence or walk through our door, we should always be hospitable and open. 

We read in the book of Psalms:

Blessed is the One who comes in the name of God. 

We bless you from the House of God. 

May we be blessed as hosts, and as guests, who exude warmth, care, and gratitude that can bring us ever closer together. 



List: https://denver.eater.com/2016/6/14/11929738/hospitality-rules-best-practices-mistakes-bryan-dayton

Friday, November 8, 2019

Blessed with Pride and Persistence - Kristallnacht, Anti-Semitism and our “Lech L’cha” Today - November 8, 2019

Thinking about Kristallnacht and Walking in the footsteps of Abram, Sarai, and our ancestors....

You don’t know me. 
But you think you do. 
You told my grandfather that he killed your father.   
You meant your Heavenly Father, but not God. 
You meant, in your view, a Jewish teacher who lived in the First Century
Who became something much greater
When his followers saw him as much more than human. 
So your accusation leveled against my grandfather 
For causing a death 2000 years ago 
Likely rang hollow for him. 
But it stung.   No doubt that it stung, because, otherwise, he wouldn’t have told his sons the story that happened in South Africa in the late 19th Century. 
My grandfather left Lithuania so that he would not be swept up in the Russian Army for so many years, that he would never be able to join his family in freedom. 
He made it, eventually.  
Did some of his family witness the worst of the evil perpetrated against Jews in Europe? 
Perhaps.  We aren’t sure, but we know that some distant relatives made their way to Israel in the early 1990s, once the doors opened and the walls had come down. 
But the walls are being built up again, emulating the Reich that destroyed synagogues and arrested Jews without cause 81 years ago this week. 
Today, misguided, hateful people attack, or plan to attack, synagogues because they see Jews as different, Christ-killers, former refugees who would help newcomers whom these violent individuals believe would destroy our country.  
They attack churches that open their doors to asylum seekers, people with brown skin, like the man who was attacked with Acid last week for walking while Latino. 
They accost and assault Jews on the streets of New York.  
They dress in stereotypical Jewish garb and hand out flyers that claim that six million Jews could not have been murdered in the Shoah. 
They walk into a Walmart to kill Mexicans who would dare to cross the border to shop.  
They see Jews as the root of all evil in the world, espousing contradictory views.  They say: 
Jews are Socialists and Communists.   Jews are using their power to dominate the world. 
Jews are rich.  Jews are poor.  
Jews are too open.  Jews are too klannish. 
Jews are evil, outcasts, pariahs, insidious, disloyal, spies, and traitors. 
Jews are the cause of all of our problems, so we must get rid of them, deport them, imprison them, eliminate them. 
We read in the Passover Haggadah: “For more than one enemy has risen up against us, to destroy us.  In every generation, in every age, some rise up to plot our annihilation. But a divine power sustains and delivers us.” 
 We cannot define ourselves by the negative lens through which the haters see us. 
How should we see ourselves?
We are persistent and resourceful. 
We are dedicated and faithful to our heritage. 
We are supportive and caring. 
We are compassionate and giving.
We are strong and peaceful. 
We are realistic and hopeful. 
We are loving towards God and to our fellow human beings. 
We realize that there is a spark of God even within those who hate and despise us. 
Is it our mission to unleash that spark deep inside of even those people driven by bigotry and violence? 
Yes.   
But is it also our mission to join with others who believe in preserving human dignity and in declaring holy spaces as off limits to the point of a knife and to the barrel of a gun? 
The divine power that can sustain and deliver us resides inside of each of us, and within our community, but it can also be found when we make common cause with people whose hearts and minds are truly open to the notion that all people are created in the image of God.   
Eternal One, help us find those who honor your divine spark that dwells inside of each of us, so that we can discover and declare Your ongoing and holy presence that will protect our holy spaces and preserve our very lives.   
  On this Shabbat, we remember Abram and Sarai, whom You, Eternal One, commanded to leave their native land and their ancestral home, in order to journey to a place that you would show them.   We pray that You will now stay by our side and walk with us on our journey, leading us to create a community founded upon safety, understanding, love and hope.    
   Oh, and you...not You, God....no, I am talking to you people who assert that you cannot give up your hatred of Jews and others who are different from you...you should know...you will never find God until you do.

Friday, November 1, 2019

Pearls from the Apartment: Keep on Growing - Column for the November 1, 2019 Las Cruces Bulletin

    My mom had just died in the first week of May in 2004.  We were going through the apartment to decide what to keep and what to discard.   Among the items we found was a small note pad on which she had written a number of quotations about leadership.  We believed that my mom had used those statements when she led meetings as president of her Temple’s women’s group between 1997 and 2001.  

    I was really taken by these pearls of wisdom.  My wife Rhonda and I shared several of those quotations during a sermon we delivered on Yom Kippur/Day of Atonement morning at Temple Beth-El on October 9: 

•   Opportunities are usually disguised as hard work, so most people don’t recognize them.  (Ann Landers)

•   No matter what happens, keep on beginning and failing.  Each time you fail, start all over again, and you will grow stronger until you find that you have accomplished a purpose – not the one you began with perhaps, but one you will be glad to remember.    (Anne Sullivan)

•    I feel that the greatest reward for doing is the opportunity to do more.   (Jonas Salk)

•    You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you do not try.    (Beverly Sills)

•   The worst part of success is finding someone who is happy for you. (Bette Midler)

•   The only way to have a friend is to be one. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)  

•    What grows never grows old. (Jewish author Noah benShea)

     Even though my mom didn’t write these statements, we know that they had meaning for her as a volunteer, as a leader, and as a mother and grandmother.  

      There was one principle all her own that she stated more than once:  “Don’t give up!” She strongly believed in perseverance due to her dedication to the organizations in which she served. 

      In that sermon, Rhonda and I shared some of the central principles that have guided us in community work.  These statements constitute our combined legacy, with my mom’s commitment to service always on our minds: 

  • Try to treat every person, from birth through the most veteran members of a community, as significant and as a precious human resource who has something to add and teach.

•   Rabbi Chanina said, “I have learned much from my teachers and even more from my colleagues, but from my students I have learned most of all.”  We are grateful for the lessons that our students of all ages have taught us with wit, with emotion, and with their own special insight.

  • When I was a fifth grade student in my Temple Religious School, my teacher led us in exploring a statement by the rabbinic sage Hillel: “If I am not for myself, who will be for me?  If I am only for myself, what am I?  And if not now, when?”  In a book that Rhonda received upon completing her formal Religious School education was this explanation of Hillel’s declaration: “These precious gems of Hillel remind us of the duties of self-preservation, self-cultivation and [they] warn us against being self-centered and selfish, [cautioning us] against procrastination.”  

•     Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.  It’s not about forgetting, but rather, it’s about reaching out with gusto to take hold of new experiences and possibilities. 

      We don’t have to have all the answers ourselves. Partnership, openness and cooperation can lead not only to success, but also to the wisdom that can enable any community to endure.



The Dove and the Olive Tree (For Parashat Noach 5780)

  It was a long journey.    

It seemed like it anyway.  

  I guess I was luckier than some of the other animals.  Oh, and the people,  the family members of our master Noah, our ship’s captain. 

  All of the birds on the ark took to circling above the ark on deck.   We agreed to follow Noah’s instructions not to fly too far away when we were stretching our wings.   Captain Noah said he needs us. 

  There used to be land.  Everywhere. Trees for our nests.  Plants.  And sunshine. 

   Then there was rain.  And more rain.   And even more rain!  

   Would it ever stop?     We hated flying in the rain. 

   Then, one day, it did stop.   Noah sent out my raven friend to see if the waters were still covering everything.   She came back and told me that there was no land.  There were no trees.  

    Then Noah called to me, “My dear dove, please fly as far as you can and see if there is dry land.”   On flight number one, I saw nothing but water, except for the tops of the highest mountains.   There was a great view up there, but there was nowhere to set down.   No trees in which to build a nest.  

      So I returned to the ark, landing on Captain Noah’s waiting outstretched hand. 

       It wasn’t long before he said, “Dear dove, please go out again.   Fly further, and see what you can find.”  

      It seemed like I was flying forever, but, finally, I saw them.   

      Olive trees.  It was amazing.  They had survived all that water.   They had lived for hundreds of years and would last even longer.  And they looked familiar.  These were the same trees where my dove ancestors had built their nests long ago.  

      I knew I had to take something back to Noah.  So I went to the tallest, oldest olive tree in the bunch on the land that was no longer covered with water. 

     I called out: “Olive tree, it’s good to see you again!   I used to live in your branches!  All of my family did. “

      The olive tree was excited, “Yes, I remember.  I am so glad to see you are still alive.”   

      The dove asked, “The only people who survived this great flood are on our boat, the Ark built by our Captain Noah.   He asked me to bring back something to show that the waters have receded and land has begun to appear.  What can I do?”

     The olive tree lifted his highest branch, as a gust of wind blew.   The tree showed the dove a small branch full of leaves.  “Take this,” he said.  “I am presenting you with this branch because of the great joy that your family gave me for all those years, one generation after another.” 

     So the dove thanked the olive tree, and gently took the branch in her beak and flew back to the ark.   She presented the branch to Captain Noah. 

    He was ecstatic.  “An olive tree branch!   The waters are going back to where they belong.  It won’t be long until we can go home!”   

     I stayed on the boat, back with my family.  Then, some time later, Noah came back to me. “Dear dove - I need your services one last time.   Please fly as far as you can.  And if you don’t return in seven days, I will know that the waters have totally receded and we can make our way back home.”

     So, this time, I was prepared for a long trip.  I went back to the olive tree, and saw that there was ground all around.   Some of my dove cousins, who had found their own way to survive the flood, came back, too.  We were a big family again.  

   And then, we saw something incredible.  

   There was a bow in the clouds.   It had many colors.  It was bright and beautiful.   The olive tree said he could see in it the colors of his trunk and branches and leaves.  And he said, “Dear dove, I can see in the rainbow the color of your eyes.”  

    And then a voice spoke to both of us, “Dear olive tree and dove, I brought you together a long time ago so that you could teach the humans an important lesson.  Dove, on your flight from the ark, you found the same Olive tree that had given your family a home. Olive tree, you let the dove take one of your branches back to the ark. You are different from each other, but you always found a way to live together in harmony.   I told Captain Noah that the rainbow was a sign that I would not destroy the earth again with the waters of a flood.    Dear dove, people many, many years from now will read about you carrying the olive branch and giving it to Captain Noah. They will see it as a symbol of peace and cooperation.  And that is true, because you and the olive tree have trusted and cared about each other.   The rainbow’s many colors will remind the descendants of Noah and his family that people may be different from each other, but they can always find ways to live together in harmony and peace.   Thank you, because that is a lesson I learned from the two of you.” 

     The olive tree and I gazed at the rainbow.  Then we looked one to the other.  I could feel his branches full of leaves embrace me. And he said, “Dear dove....welcome home.”    

    


Friday, October 25, 2019

One Year after, we are still very good - October 25, 2019

B’raysheet - One Year After - October 25, 2019

What is our role in sustaining God’s creation? 
We read in the first portion of the book of Genesis
That God would stop during the process of 
Making the world come to be 
To note that what had been created was TOV good. 
It was not until the two human beings were created
That God used the words TOV M’OD - very good. 
Were the human beings still very good
When they disobeyed the rules of the garden, requiring them to 
Make for themselves a new beginning? 
Were the human beings still very good
When one, whose gift to God had not been accepted
Took his dejection out on his brother through murder,
Only to have God let all of humanity know
Not to seek revenge for that taking of a life? 
Were the human beings still very good 
When the result of their long years of life
With new generations continuously unfolding
Was a world about which God was filled with regret
Because the inclination for action among human beings
Had totally turned to evil, except for one individual?
The answer is yes. 
We are still very good. 
If there is anything that the Tree of Life Synagogue shootings taught us
It’s that, in the face of hatred and violence, 
People are capable of coming together 
in love, compassion, understanding and remembrance. 
We have learned that, in the face of the dehumanization 
that can lead to the taking of lives,
We can unite to reiterate how precious life is
And how significant are the relationships 
Which we create and sustain with each other. 
We are still very good
When we can clearly see our differences 
and realize that all people 
have something positive to add to this world. 
May we know that we are still very good 
When we offer healing to those who are in pain 
Hope to those who are in despair
And the warmth of welcome to those who feel that they have no secure place
In the human family.    
May our hands, hearts, and minds be open to fully embracing one another and this world
And offering blessings from the depth of our souls. 
BARUCH ATAH ADONAI SHEASANU B’TZELEM ELOHIM. 
Blessed are You, Eternal One, who has made us in the divine image: 
Holy, Unique, and Very Good.

Friday, October 18, 2019

A TIME FOR HOPE - D’var Torah - Shabbat Sukkot 5780 - October 18, 2019

Sometimes we have to start over. 

As with Moses. 

The old tablets were shattered in anger. 

The new tablets needed be created with a promise:

To follow standards that could keep people close as a community

To believe in a God who is 

Always present

Compassionate 

Gracious

Slow to anger

Abundant in kindness and dependability. 

Showing a generosity of spirit to  

Forgiving what we do wrong 

But holding us responsible 

For the long-term consequences of

Of our errors in judgment 

Borne out in misguided actions 

So we would learn from our mistakes. 

God wants us to treat each other 

As God approaches us: 

With compassion, kindness, generosity, 

As we hold each other to a high standard 

Of morality.  

It’s not about making excuses for anyone, 

But helping each other to realize our better selves

Even at a time when people have descended 

Into a darkness of the soul

That reflects a foundation of  

Anger, fear, selfishness, ridicule, 

Dishonesty and hatred.  

To everything there is a season, says Ecclesiastes,

There is a time to love and a time to hate,

And both give way, one to the other, 

In relatively rapid succession 

Over the course of many years. 

We have it in our power 

To turn the cycle back to where we want it to be. 

The fragile Sukkah, as a shelter of peace and hope,

Reminds us that when hate and fear 

Become prominent, 

It’s time to work for love. 

And when sowing conflict becomes a tool for control and power, 

It’s time to work towards cooperation and peace. 

Blessed are You, Eternal One, 

Who reminds us to strengthen our shelters, 

Even if they are fragile, 

So that we can, under their protection, 

We can move forward into the future

In unity 

With renewed faith in ourselves and in each other

And with hope. 



 

Thursday, October 17, 2019

Invocation - OUR SHELTER - Temple Beth-El Las Cruces Board Meeting - October 17, 2019

Invocation

TBE Las Cruces Board Meeting 

October 17, 2019


Eternal God, 

Who spreads a shelter over us

When we give thanks to You for the bounty of the earth,

What do we want to see preserved 

under Your holy Tabernacle of creation?

Creativity

Artistry

Ingenuity

Cooperation

One person lifting up another

Knowledge

Wisdom

Truth

Humor

A sense of history

Heritage

Song

Prayer

Growth

Acceptance

Understanding 

Compassion

Fairness

Love

Hope.    

Can You keep all of these gifts 

under Your shelter? 

We know that You can, 

but that You will do so

When we offer You and the world 

our faith, dedication, commitment, and support. 

Teach us that

the shelter that we have built on this festival

Demonstrates what we can do 

To uphold and maintain 

the shelter of creation 

Which You have fashioned and 

Which You renew each day. 

Remind us that we are Your partners

Your companions

Your friends

Your eyes, heart, mouth and hands. 

Through which 

You keep us alive

Sustain us 

And bring us to 

the moments of 

celebration and achievement

That are yet to come. 

Blessed are You, 

Eternal One,

to whom we are grateful 

For spreading over us 

a Sukkah

Of Shalom 

of Wholeness, of Completeness,

Of peace.