Thursday, September 13, 2018

Are You With Us? A Prayer for Yom Kippur Morning - September 19, 2018

Eternal God,

Creator, Sustainer,

Source of our comfort,

The One who desires our return,

We strive to feel Your presence among us here today. 

Are You a watchful companion wherever we may find ourselves? 

Are You with us when we face hard choices?

Are You standing by us when we make our voices heard

Based on our most deeply-held beliefs? 

Will You forgive us if we forget You even for a moment, 

If we are unable to make time to take a look around

At Your beautiful creation? 

Will You help us to recognize that You are embedded 

In the diversity that exists all around us?

Will we hear You in every baby’s cry? 

Will we see You in the faces of family members,

neighbors, community members, strangers, and in friend and foe alike? 

Will You remind us that our successes are based upon talents that You have bestowed upon us 

Which we have nurtured 

And will You then direct us to use those abilities to generate

Generosity and goodness in the human community? 

Will You help us to turn our failings into lessons from which we will learn

So that we will grow stronger from those trying moments in our lives? 

For those who are among us today, on this Sabbath of Sabbaths,

seeking atonement or At-one-ment with You and with one another, 

And for those who are not among us,

We pray that the words we recite in our worship today 

Will encompass our entire congregation

So that all that we say and do 

Will reflect Your dearest hope

For our constant return 

To the path You have laid out 

for our lives

And for our souls 

this year and every year.  






Monday, September 10, 2018

"God heard the cry" - Sermon - Rosh Hashanah Morning - September 10, 2018 (Temple Beth-El, Las Cruces, NM)


  How would you react if you were to wake up to this headline in all major newspapers both print and online:  “Passports of Jews invalidated - Jewish domestic and international travel drastically restricted”?
Or how would you deal with another similar announcement: “Jewish residents with passports from several Eastern European nations deported from their homes without notice”?
   Fortunately, those headlines are not taken from the present.   There was a time, however, when they were real and true.  It was Germany that invalidated the passports of Jewish citizens on October 5, 1938, nearly 80 years ago.   And, on October 27, 1938, Jews with Polish passports who were living in Germany, some for many years, were deported and, in many cases, escorted by force to the Polish border. 
   Within two weeks after the expulsion, the Third Reich perpetrated on the German Jewish Community the nation-wide pogrom known as Kristallnacht, “The Night of Broken Glass.”  Rioters destroyed 267 synagogues in the country.  7500 businesses owned by Jews were looted and had windows shattered.   91 Jews died in the attacks, and up to 30,000 Jewish males were sent to concentration camps.
    I can remember, when I was a child, seeing movies about the Holocaust, as well as films like the 1965 documentary “Let My People Go: The Story of Israel.”  Both the Six-Day War of 1967 and the Yom Kippur War of 1973 brought home for me the precarious existence, as well as the enduring strength, of the State of Israel.  We have seen all too well the dangers that Jews face living in that unfriendly neighborhood that is the Middle East.  In October of 1975, the United Nations General Assembly passed resolution 3379 which equated Zionism with racism.  I was a college senior listening to a radio news report about that sad turn of events.   I felt like it touched me personally, nearly a year before I first stepped off a plane at Ben Gurion Airport.  That UN Resolution was rescinded in 1991.      
    All of these experiences have shaped my sense of who I am as a member of the Jewish community and as a rabbi.   I would add, though, one more experience that has affected my Jewish identity.   I never really got used to being told by friends that they were upset and sad that I would not be saved at the end of time because I am Jewish.  Sometimes our conversation turned into a robust, substantive interchange about our respective beliefs – and sometimes not.
    So I was not surprised when the 1980 declaration of Baptist minister Bailey Smith hit me deeply.   In August of that year, Rev. Smith told the Southern Baptist Convention, “It’s interesting to me at great political battles how you have a Protestant to pray and a Catholic to pray and then you have a Jew to pray. With all due respect to those dear people, my friend, God Almighty does not hear the prayer of a Jew. For how in the world can God hear the prayer of those [who don’t believe in] the true Messiah?” At that time, and in later statements of his position, Smith claimed to love the Jewish people.  He was never, as far as I know, able to say that he could affirm where we are as Jews,  enthusiastically comfortable with our own beliefs.  
    The memories of Rev. Smith’s unwavering expressions of his position came to mind as I read Robert Jones’ 2016 book, THE END OF WHITE CHRISTIAN AMERICA.  Jones outlined the changing demographics of the United States which would lead our country to become more diverse.   Jones correctly surmised that such changes could elicit concern and fear for many Americans.  As I read this book, I felt like an observer, looking on from the sidelines, but not “out of the game,” so to speak.   As for me, I was not afraid of Jones’ conclusions at all. My extensive participation in interfaith organizations and multicultural coalitions throughout my rabbinate has always led me to seek out diversity and to develop greater interreligious connections and understanding. 
    I came to see over the years that there are many people in other faith groups who not only believe that our prayers are heard, but they are eager to discuss our respective views, to discover where we differ and where our beliefs converge, and to foster unity and respect between us.  
      On Rosh Hashanah, we join in worship as members of a worldwide Jewish community, with people gathering in synagogues throughout the world, directing prayers to God that will enable us to see ourselves and our lives with greater clarity.  When I chant, sing and read the High Holy Day liturgy, I believe that God hears me where I am at the beginning of this New Year.  I have faith that the Oneness which connects and binds together all of creation is like a counselor and friend who listens to us and who wants US to listen to ourselves as we recite readings alone, and as we pray together, about how we, as imperfect human beings, can still strive for perfection. 
    The Torah reading for the New Year always provides insights that can guide us in the months to come. For my entire rabbinate, I have served in congregations that followed the custom established in the previous Reform High Holy Day prayerbooks of reading, on Rosh Hashanah morning, the story of the binding of Isaac in Genesis Chapter 22.  That passage is recited in traditional congregations on the second day of Rosh Hashanah.
    Mishkan Hanefesh provides us with a wider choice for the Torah passages we could recite on this New Year morning.   It includes the Torah reading that tradition assigned for the first day of Rosh Hashanah, which is Genesis Chapter 21, which we will read today.  This passage begins, VA-ADONAI PAKAD ET SARAH, “God remembered Sarah,” noting that God kept the divine promise to Sarah that she would bear a son, Isaac, YITZCHAK, meaning “He will laugh.”   The link between this section of the Torah and Rosh Hashanah is that we want God to remember us and to truly hear us as we consider our behavior and character in ways that will lead us to bring healing and repair to ourselves and to the world in the coming year. 
    There is however, much more to this story than the birth of Isaac.   This passage is complete with rivalry, drama, and unexpected challenges to survival.  It is part of a saga that began several chapters before. In Genesis Chapter 16, Sarai had given permission for her husband Abram to have a child with her servant Hagar.  Once Hagar became pregnant, Sarai despised her, and her harsh treatment led Hagar to flee into the desert.  An Angel came to Hagar as she rested by a well, telling her that she would bear a son, whom she would name Ishmael, meaning “God will hear.”
    In Genesis Chapter 21, the rivalry had extended to the new generation, as Ishmael was mistreating his half-brother Isaac.   The word in Hebrew for what Ishmael was doing is M’TZACHEK, which can mean “making sport” or “mocking.”  One commentator suggested that Ishmael was doing more than that.  Given that Isaac’s name was YITZCHAK, M’TZACHEK, taken from the same root,  could mean that Ishmael was trying to take Isaac’s place as the favored son.   That was not going to happen, but Hagar had been promised that her son would become the father of a nation.  It was just that, in Abraham’s household, there was only room for one ancestor of a great nation - and that was Isaac.   Ishmael’s behavior and Sarah’s anger led Abraham to send Hagar and Ishmael away.  Abraham had compassion for his family, though, so he provided them with bread and water to last for the first days of their journey.
    But the provisions ran out.   And Hagar had no hope for her own survival and that of her son.  The story continues: “God heard the boy's cry, and from heaven, an angel of God called to Hagar and said, ‘What troubles you, Hagar? Do not be afraid, for God has heard the cry of the boy where he is. Stand up, lift the boy, and hold strongly onto him with your hand, for I am going to make of him a great nation.’  And God opened her eyes, and she saw a well of water. And she went and filled the water-skin and gave the boy a drink. And God was with the boy as he grew.”
    This is a difficult story to tell, because it presents Abraham and Sarah as approaching their own family members with apparent cruelty.    Even so,  Hagar and Ishmael survived because God heard them.   Where there is divine listening, there can be a chance for rescue.  
      And where there is human listening, there can be an opportunity for acts that can save people who face threats to their own survival. 
     Sometimes we readily recognize those needs and give food and clothing and provide shelter for people who might ultimately be lifted up to their own subsistence because of our generosity.
   But we might not readily see everyone’s needs.     In his book, Pirkei Avot: A Social Justice Commentary, Rabbi Shmuly Yanklowitz explained that sometimes we have to intently listen to hear the cries of people in need.  He said, “Tikkun ha-olam, repairing the world, hints at tikkun he-elem, repairing that which is concealed, whether from our thoughts or from our heart. Our job is not just to repair the world, but to make what is hidden visible and repair that, too. This includes the suffering of invisible people—those vulnerable people who go through life without the concern of the broader populace—while also combatting the pernicious and hidden forms of injustice, below-the-surface oppression, and scarcely seen brokenness that silently affect millions.  Undertaking this task reinforces the purpose of human creation and our human essence.”
    So it is our challenge to not only to be God’s hands and eyes, but also to listen for those voices that call on us to recognize inhumane treatment and cruelty.  Some may claim that there are people who are undeserving of our concern based on the beholder’s interpretation of legality. Other may not understand that people who are facing extreme financial challenges may be in that situation because of a whole constellation of forces at work in society, not solely because of their own mismanagement or incompetence.    
   The point of this Torah reading is to teach us that everyone deserves to be heard.   If God heard the cry of Ishmael and an angel gave Hagar reassurance, then they were not to be despised or ignored. They were still very much part of Abraham’s story.   When Abraham died, Ishmael and Isaac came together to bury their father.  So the Torah intends for us to be sympathetic to the mother and child who were sent away from their home.  That is why it tells us that, more than once, God heard them and answered them.
    We can, from our place, hear the cries of people in our own country and around the world who need assistance, who are seeking to live a good life, who desire freedom, who would work hard for any community or country in which they would live, and who would be grateful to anyone who would show them grace and hospitality.  
    I believe that the Torah is trying to remind us, on this New Year’s day, that it is our human duty to open our minds and hearts to all people, to see beyond disagreements and differences, and to reach out based in fellowship, peace and even love. 
    To do all this, we simply have to acknowledge that our humanity inexorably ties us all together.   In her book, THE OPPOSITE OF HATE, Sally Kohn recounted a personal story that served as the foundation for her work.  She had, as a young teenager, bullied and harassed a classmate.  As she later looked back on her behavior at that time, she was regretful and even horrified.  After describing, throughout her book, the ways in which people in many places around the world have tried to resolve their own disagreements and conflicts, she arrived at this conclusion about how we should think about our fellow human beings, especially when hatred could overtake us in ways we can’t control.  She said: “Ultimately, the opposite of hate is the beautiful and powerful reality of how we are all fundamentally linked and equal as human beings. The opposite of hate is connection....Understanding—and expressing—our equal interconnectedness is the practical path to ending hate…It’s what every major and minor world religion teaches, though, sadly, it’s not something all followers seem to fully grasp. This sense of connection is not just some heady abstraction, nor some bland platitude, but a transformative tool for finding our way out of hate and toward a positive, constructive alternative. We can relate to each other and to society in general in ways that perpetuate hate. Or we can spread inclusion and equality and justice—by choosing to connect.”
    Sally Kohn did seek out and find, through social media,  her long-ago classmate whom she had wronged.  She sent her a note of sincere apology.  The woman wrote her back, claiming she wasn’t sure she was the person Sally had been seeking. Then she said this: “Messages such as this cannot absolve you of your past actions.  The only way to do that is to improve the world, prevent others from behaving in similar ways, and foster compassion.” 
       So may the One who created us, who made us equal, and who fashioned us in the divine image, enable us to hear with clarity and with an ear for compassion, words that can bring us ever closer to one another, cries of those who desperately require our helping hand, and teachings that continue to reveal that we are all in this together, as we continue to work for healing, repair and hope in this world.    So may we do, and let us say Amen.

Pathways to Happiness - Sermon - Erev Rosh Hashanah - September 9, 2018 (at Temple Beth-El, Las Cruces, NM)


    A few weeks ago, one of my fellow graduates from my high school posted online this year’s promotional video for our school district.   I attended Center High School in Kansas City, and the theme of the short presentation, featuring faculty members and students, was “Find your Center.”  
   At first, I thought it was just a clever pun.  
   Upon further reflection, I realized that it was much more.    
      Any high school can be a place where students learn essential life skills, gain new and useful knowledge, and develop friendships that have the potential to last for decades.  And those years, which inevitably feature their ups and downs, can establish the foundation of who we will become as we move along the path of our lives.
      Once we complete our education and choose a job or career, we discover that, outside of work, we may need something more for personal and spiritual fulfillment.  So we find a community that can become our center, a locus of gathering where we can join together with other people to express shared values and goals.  
    In a Jewish community, we try to make our center, the location or building where we come together, into a place where other people can feel welcome when they visit or when they join us for a special program or event. 
    And when we are participating as members of a community in a Beit Knesset, a house of assembly or “synagogue,” like Temple Beth-El, what happens here can enable us to find our personal center, our essence as human beings.  
    During our study on Shavuot evening of Rabbi Evan Moffic’s book, THE HAPPINESS PRAYER, we discussed Rabbi Moffic’s interpretation of  the EILU D’VARIM reading that is recited daily in Jewish worship. The goal of our conversation was to discover how doing the acts listed in that paragraph could enable us to be happy, as Rabbi Moffic suggested.     Please turn with me to page 115 so that we can read this prayer aloud and together:   
    Some mitzvot sustain us not only in this world, but also in the world-to-come.  They are: honoring our parents; acting with kindness and loyalty; eagerly pursuing Jewish learning at all times; welcoming guests; visiting the sick; rejoicing with couples under the chuppah, caring for the dead and mourners; delving deeply into prayer; making peace among human beings.  And the study of Torah - this is the cornerstone. 
   In his book THE HAPPINESS PRAYER, Rabbi Moffic contended that the EILU D’VARIM prayer is not merely a list of good deeds we should perform.  
“The prayer,” he said, “begins with a statement of its purpose. It uses a financial metaphor. Our actions represent an investment of our time. The interest on this investment is our happiness. Like financial interest, it compounds. In other words, the longer we follow these lessons, the more our happiness grows. Here is my paraphrase of the Hebrew original of the prayer.
How will you find happiness in this world and peace in the world to come?
By learning these wisdom practices from your ancestors:
·      Honor those who gave you life
·      Be kind
·      Keep learning
·      Invite others into your life
·      Be there when others need you
·      Celebrate good times
·      Support yourself and others during times of loss
·      Pray with intention
·      Forgive
·      Look inside and commit.”
    Rabbi Moffic explained, “Happiness is a by-product of living by our commitments to our faith. We do not often think of faith, though, in this way. We tend to think [that] committing to faith gets us a ticket into heaven. We tend to think of it as being about making God happy. But these commitments aren’t only about making God happy. They ultimately make us happy. They reveal the path to true meaning and satisfaction in life.”
    I have been serving on the Las Cruces Health Policy Review Committee for most of the last year.   I was asked by City Council member Jack Eakman to offer a presentation on spiritual health at the May meeting.  I shared with the committee members Rabbi Moffic’s paraphrase of what he identified as Judaism’s prescription for happiness. 
     I also cited the “seven habits of happy people” featured on the website www.pursuit-of-happiness.org. Those seven habits are: 
1. Express your heart (cultivate relationships).
2. Perform acts of kindness (volunteer and care for others).
3. Keep moving and eat well (maintain physical and mental well-being).
4. Find your flow (engage in an activity in your skill set that gives you enjoyment).
5. Discover meaning (some identify faith and spirituality as finding meaning and purpose in life).
6. Discover and use your strengths (identify pursuits in which you excel).
7. Treasure gratitude, mindfulness, and hope.
   The overlap between that list and Rabbi Moffic’s rendering of the wisdom practices of our heritage was astounding. 
    Finally, I offered insights in my presentation from Dr. Jeff Levin, who has written extensively about the effects of spirituality and religious living on our personal health.  He has noted that nearly 8 in 10 studies show a positive effect of religious participation for happiness and life satisfaction across religions and across categories of age, gender, race, ethnicity, social class, and nationality.
    It seems that a pathway to happiness has been sitting right under our noses for a long, long time. 
    We may not always make the connections between the good deeds that we perform and the values embodied in Jewish prayers and teachings.  Nevertheless, those associations have always been there.   It is up to us to recognize how our heritage is expressed in what we do every day.  
     Our actions may mirror the themes of our worship.  Tonight’s service directed us to appreciate creation, to engage in lifelong learning, to connect with the Oneness that holds all existence together, to pass on our values to a new generation, to foster hope and comfort, to acknowledge from whence we came, to find the holiness all around us, to show gratitude for the gifts we enjoy, and to work  for peace. 
   When I ask someone what “mitzvah” means, and he or she says “good deed” rather than the literal translation, “commandment,” it is probably a good thing.  Judaism is a religion based on deed.   Peace and contentment can be ultimate goals for our actions. Happiness is the byproduct that we enjoy through that feeling of internal satisfaction that we get from the good we have done, and the sense of being part of something greater that we gain through the connections we form and the relationships we nurture through our good work. 
     Some of you know that I traveled to Kansas City for the funeral of my cousin Barbara during the first weekend of August.   When I thought afterwards about what I did on my whirlwind three-day trip, I  realized that it was an EILU D’VARIM experience.  I took part in Jewish worship by attending the Shabbat evening service at my home Temple and the Shabbat morning service, along with other relatives, at the Conservative synagogue where my cousin belonged.  I  was involved in Jewish learning as I listened to sermons delivered at both services I attended.  I comforted my cousin Barbara’s children and grandchildren before, during and after the graveside funeral.  My brother and I paid tribute to our parents by visiting their gravesite.  I congratulated Barbara’s daughter Leslie on her recent wedding. I felt a sense of peace and completeness while reconnecting with my relatives and being present for the family of my late cousin, who was always good to and supportive of my parents. 
    We fulfill the teachings of EILU D’VARIM, the happiness prayer, throughout the course of every year.  Those words direct us to be good and do good.  They provide a yardstick for measuring human action.    Sometimes we witness behavior in our community that brings those values to life.  At other times, we see people in our world who are violating those standards to such an extent that we may not know what to do to set things right.    Judaism teaches us, in those moments, to stop, to look into our souls, to reconnect with the best part of ourselves, to find our center, to continue along our own pathway to happiness, and, finally, to share our message with others who might benefit from hearing what our tradition teaches about how to be good and do good.  
     On August 12, at the orientation for Board members and Temple leaders in the evening, and at the Religious School parent meeting in the morning, each group engaged in brief study on a reading from the Shabbat morning service in MISHKAN T’FILAH.   You have been provided a copy of this reading.  It echoes EILU D’VARIM in some ways, but it adds to the traditional prayer some new thoughts and insights.  Please join me in this reading on your handout:  
WE SEEKERS of God, how do we find You?
 In good deeds and in the study of Torah.
And Your search for us?
You find us in the bending of the knee,
 in the rigor of study,
in the honesty of commerce,
through a good heart, through decency,
 in respect, true fellowship, companionship and love,
through truth and peace,
in the No that is really No, and
the Yes that is really Yes.
Blessed are You, Eternal One, who teaches Torah to Your people Israel.”
     According to this prayer, we can, if we choose, be seekers of God by performing good deeds and by learning about how we can further infuse kindness and decency into the world.      
   But this prayer based on an ancient Jewish text is not just a prescription of personal practices that can add to our happiness.   It suggests something more.  It claims that God is looking for us.  It asserts that God finds us when we are menschlikh, good hearted, respectful, loving, honest and peaceful.  It declares that God searches for us when we face ethical decisions.  The Eternal One looks for us in our struggle to arrive at a No or a Yes that expresses the full extent of our character and that demonstrates that we have been deeply influenced by what we have learned  from our best role models, from our most valuable teachers, from our closest life partners in our family and among friends, and from the wisdom and guidance in our heritage, that offer us ways to move closer to a place of happiness and peace. 
     How will we apply all that we have learned until now and put into practice the entire extent of wisdom we have gained so far in our life’s experiences?   Our Book of Life in 5779 has not been written yet; but let us inscribe ourselves on its pages with acts of kindness that reflect our pursuit of happiness, and with a commitment to help each other find our center, so that God’s search for us will not be in vain.