Leadership, Humility, Holiness - Article for Temple Beth-El Las Cruces Adelante Newsletter February 2017

   I have been thinking a lot lately about leadership, and about humility.  That usually happens when new national leaders take the helm and  a pattern emerges of how statements are issued and policies are created.        

     I have also been thinking about leadership as a member of Temple’s Leadership Development Committee.  Temple president Ellen Torres has been reporting in her articles on this group.   To stimulate thought and discussion on this topic of leadership, we all read materials from the Union for Reform Judaism and responded to particular ideas that were presented, creating our own individual reflections on what it means to be a leader in a congregation.   

    Each of the statements had something different to add to our “leadership landscape.” I want to share with you my piece on leadership and add some comments as well.   

"Being a leader and a role model"  

  I believe in a collaborative leadership approach that places leaders in a position to guide, to suggest, to develop ideas without judgment, to listen to new perspectives, to engender partnerships with other leaders and, in a congregation, with the rabbi.   Sharing a vision that will enable the rabbi and Temple leaders to grow together would be the goal, with congregants offering a foundation through their participation.   Being a role model in a congregational context, for me, comes from how I experienced my parents' leadership in their many years of service in Temple life, as well as other individuals I have known who have served congregations with distinction.  

My role model criteria list, in the ideal, would be:

*Commitment to the congregation's goals/vision  

*Persistence in making Judaism come alive in the com-munity 

*Trying to engender a feeling of spiritual uplift for all who enter, including for oneself *Integrity 

*Honesty 

*Patience 

*Kindness 

 *Humility 

*A sense of the holy, whether within the tasks them-selves performed as a leader, or in applying to volunteer service an understanding of Jewish teachings that grow out of the holidays (rest from “doing the business of congregational life" for Shabbat, freedom for Passover, dedication for Chanukah, restoring relationships to equilibrium for the High Holy Days).  

*Being welcoming to every soul who walks into the building or attends community events so that others will do the same.     

     Humility is an integral part of leadership.  At the Temple Beth-El Wednesday breakfast on January 26, I presented Jewish views on “Humility,” a topic that was discussed at our annual Interfaith conversation sponsored by the Adult Education Committee in November.  As I prepared for the Wednesday breakfast talk, I was reminded of the great value of the Musar Movement in Judaism of the 19th Century (and earlier), which developed the concept of “measures” (Middot) of character that people could study in order to develop and strengthen their own integrity.   In his book Everyday Holiness, Alan Morinis, a contemporary advocate of exploring the principles of the Musar movement, placed humility at the foundation of personal character development.   Some of the practices based in humility that are cited in Musar literature are:  deference, forbearance (being slow to anger and refrain-ing from responding to a slight directed at us), appreciation of the time we have on earth, habitually honoring others, attention to the blessings that have come our way, and honoring the One who provides us with those blessings.         

     When I asked those who were present at the break-fast about the traits of people whom they consider humble, they produced the following list, which includes traits and approaches that any leader should consider in his/her practice: thinking of “we” instead of “I”; putting the needs of others first; making others feel valued and appreciated; using discretion; being a good listener; being a facilitator/negotiator who sees his/her partners as full equals; being able to laugh at oneself; being open-minded; showing respect to everyone; seeing something superior to you in every person; doing/giving for the love of doing/giving; recognizing one’s limitations; exhibiting modesty (including about one’s accomplish-ments); and acknowledging God as the source of everything and as a reason for our humility.     

   We often speak of the word “spirituality” in our conversations about religion and faith.   I believe that it is a sense of the holy, of living in our own time or in our own Jewish perspectives, as well as an approach to life that identifies a divine presence as a constant companion, that is the beginning of a spiritual life.   Whether one is a leader or a member at this particular moment, all of us have the potential to lead, teach, listen, learn and seek to better ourselves as a part of a caring community.  That is the task that we can humbly take on with a sacred sense of responsibility for the present and the future.  

Discussion of values is key in finding common ground - Las Cruces Bulletin Monthly Column for February 3, 2017

As a citizen and clergy person, I always try to find common ground with a wide range of community members through discussion of values that we live by. Some principles do cause division, while others have the potential, and even power, to bring people together in ways they may not have expected.      

     Now, as much as any other time, a discussion of values in America can take us to a place where we can determine what we can do together. Such conversations remind us to listen to one another, further defining what we can do for the betterment of our community and our nation as a whole. 

     Surveys from the last several years attempted to identify values that most Americans still prize. In 2013, Andrew Kohut and Michael Dimock, in a report on resilient American values for the Council on Foreign Relations, found that more than 50 percent of Americans endorsed involvement in community activities to address local issues, volunteer work for charitable causes and personal expression through prayer and some connection with God (with half of Americans doing so through a religious community). 

     From America’s beginnings, faith communities have infused values into our national culture. Sacred texts have the potential to lead us to consider what it means to be honest, hard-working, caring, generous, welcoming, considerate, decent, supportive, respectful and peaceful. Following the 2016 election, Andrea Weiss, associate professor of Bible at Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion (HUC-JIR) in New York City, believed that this moment in our nation’s history called for "guidance, inspiration, and a reaffirmation of what it means to be an American." 

     Weiss envisioned a diverse group of religious scholars sending a letter a day to the newly elected officials for the first 100 days of the new presidential term. Through her own teaching of ancient biblical texts, Weiss realized they could be a source of both comfort and wisdom for the here and now.    

      Working with an advisory committee, rabbinic interns from HUC-JIR and project designers, the "American Values/Religious Voices" (www.valuesandvoices.com) Campaign was created, developed and brought to fruition. Since the first day of the new administration, a new letter has been added each day to the website, which offers readers the opportunity to receive each letter as an email. 

     I spoke on the phone with Weiss last week to find out more about this campaign. She said part of this effort was about learning from other people. America has been a place where people learn from and listen to each other, and she hoped people would learn and listen through reading and reflecting on the letters. She was proud of the page on the website that shows the faces of the 100 scholars, illustrating the diversity of our citizens. Through their letters, these teachers of religion are linking the principles they discuss in their classes with what it means to be an American. 

    The Values and Voices Advisory Committee’s "Letter 0" on the website noted that the letters intend to "contribute constructively to our national discourse, reaffirming who we are as Americans and modeling how we can learn from one another and work together for the common good." 

     I read these letters every day and consider the values on which they focus and how they can become a greater part of American life. I hope you will do the same, both on your own and at a local discussion series that will begin soon. I believe that local conversations on these letters could lead us to renewed and much-needed common ground.

"Welcoming the Stranger" - Message at a Las Cruces Interfaith Prayer Service - February 3, 2017

      This week, a reporter was interviewing people in lower Manhattan who were about to board a boat to visit the Statue of Liberty. 

      She asked the passengers on the boat, "Who was Emma Lazarus?"  

        Some had heard her name, some hadn't. 

       When the reporter said, "Give me your tired, your poor," she added, "Emma Lazarus wrote that."  

     Then they realized that they knew at least one thing about this woman who wrote a timeless poem. 

      Emma Lazarus was born in 1849 and grew up near New York City's Union Square in downtown Manhattan.   She was from a Sephardic Jewish family.  Her ancestors originally came from the area of Spain and Portugal. They had lived in America for some time. 

     While her family sought to become part of the mainstream of society, people often called her "Jewess," reminding her that she was different and in the minority. 

     Still, Emma Lazarus made a name for herself. She was an accomplished poet from her teenaged years.   

Her writing often focused on the plight of her people around the world and in the United States. 

     She was horrified when Joseph Seligman, a prominent member of the New York Jewish community who had emigrated from Germany, was refused entry to the Grand Union Hotel in Saratoga, NY in 1877.   

    The owner of the hotel explained that Jews of Sephardic origin, like Emma, were welcome, but not those "German Jews."  

     Emma Lazarus knew that, at that time, there were many Jews coming from Russia and Eastern Europe, both to escape anti-Semitic attacks to which they were subjected and to find a better life here. 

    She became a passionate advocate of Jewish refugees from Eastern Europe.   And she could see people from many backgrounds seeking a place of safety and opportunity in the United States, and she thought it was important to welcome them, too.  

     So she wrote her poem THE NEW COLOSSUS for a fundraiser for Lady Liberty in 1883.   Emma Lazarus died in 1887.  It wasn't until her poem was rediscovered in 1901 by a friend that her poignant words were thought of again.  Her poem was inscribed onto a plaque and placed on the premises of the Statue of Liberty in 1903.  

    Here we are, 114 years later, still looking to the words of Emma Lazarus for inspiration and guidance.  

     To Muslims, Christians, Jews, Baha'is, Buddhists, Sikhs, and people of other faiths and beliefs, our country has offered a welcome - and a process by which immigrants could ultimately become citizens.     

     We need a system that works, a path that recognizes our role in helping refugees find a new place to live, using the same system of extensive vetting that has already been employed in recent years. 

    We need to open our minds and hearts to the stories of everyone around us, from Native Americans who have a long heritage on this land, to those who journeyed to America from other countries.  

    We are mindful that people all over this nation - in the heartland as well as on the coasts, have immigration stories that they could share, tales that could instantly create common ground.

     And we need to listen to the stories of those who want to stay here but who have no opportunity due to legislative inaction. 

    I hope and pray that the words of Emma Lazarus can direct us to maintaining  policies that demonstrate wisdom and compassion.  

    It was that type of welcome to immigrants that allowed my grandparents, Wolf and Pearl Glazer, and Mendel and Anna Karol, to come to this country from Eastern Europe, making it possible for me to stand here today.  

    It is that approach that can generate good will to people who would face danger if they went home.  

    It is that perspective through which our country can affirm the great strength that so many people from so many places have provided to our nation.  

    May we look into each other's eyes and see a vision of goodness and Oneness, realizing that an Eternal Presence will preserve our fellowship and faith if we continue to stand together.  

A Prayer for All of Us - Based on Parashat Vaera January 27, 2017

 Eternal God,

Source of comfort for those in despair,

Source of strength and courage for those who must resist hatred and prejudice,

We read in this week’s Torah portion that the Israelites could not hear 

The hopeful message of Moses 

About deliverance from slavery 

Because of their broken spirits

And their harsh labor. 

 In our day, God of our freedom,

Help us to lift each other’s spirits 

When we feel that our voices are no longer heard. 

Enable us to stand when we think we might fall 

Because of the burdens of our own lives

Or due to a sense of defeat 

That what we have worked for throughout our lives

Could disappear all too easily. 

Help us to remember those who were at Auschwitz who were liberated on this day in 1945

Survivors of diabolical hatred, abuse, cruelty and harsh labor 

that echoed the unfortunate situation of the Israelites in Egypt. 

May we also remember those who had died at Auschwitz, other camps and in other communities who did not live long enough to experience freedom once again. 

May we be their voices 

Their eyes

Their ears

Their hands

So that such atrocities will not happen again to anyone in our time 

as it did to Jews and to members of other groups of people 

whose existence the Nazis begrudged and whom they marked for certain death. 

May our words ring out against discrimination

And narrow-mindedness

May our declarations of liberty 

Resound with all the citizens in our nation

And throughout the world.

As you bring us healing, O God, may you also inspire in us 

Optimism and fortitude

So that we will know that practicing Your compassion and Your mercy

Will bear fruit within the human family and throughout the world.

Three Expressions of Free Expression - Prayers at a Crucial National Historical Moment - on Exodus Chapter 1 and statements of the day

A prayer for Shemot and a crucial historic moment 

January 19, 2017

 

Eternal God,

Who led the Israelites to freedom,

The Torah reminds us of the consequences of forgetfulness

As the new Pharoah who did not know Joseph

Saw fit to enslave an entire population of people

From which had come the very man who had led the people through a difficult time of famine and despair.

The Torah reminds us of courage, as the midwives Shifrah and Puah found a way to save one special and important male child

Born after Pharaoh’s tragic decree to deny life to all infant boys to live born among the Israelites.

The Torah reminds us of awareness, faith, and a sense of holiness,

As Moses turned aside to see a bush that burned but was not consumed and heard a voice calling for him

To lead his people out of slavery to a new beginning.

Seeing the appearance of fire did not elicit fear in Moses, but wonder, and determination and hope.  

Moses was told that he stood on holy ground at that moment, but even when he eventually approach Pharoah at his palace, Moses’ presence made the ground holy

Because he sought freedom for his people.

Moses declared, before Pharaoh, the call from a God of freedom and compassion

Who heard the cries of suffering from among the Israelites.

He spoke God’s instruction to him so that it could resound

through all Egypt to reveal the crime of enslaving an entire people and forcing them to engage in hard labor.

So help us, God, today and at all times,

To walk with courage, to remember the good that has come to us from all types of leaders and workers on behalf of all people, to keep our eyes open to wonders that might inspire us to be advocates for freedom, and to hear the cries of those in need so that we can lead them to a better place which will, in turn, take us to a better place as well.

ON INAUGURATION AFTERNOON 

Eternal God, 

You are hearing everything we say,

Watching all that we do, 

Wondering when we are going to start talking in positive terms about the here and now, not just future greatness. 

We learn from the Rabbis to "look at each other in the most positive way."   

That includes the way in which we view our nation in the moment.    

There could be a more positive outlook if we could see the good in where we are now along with the challenges 

And the best parts of ideas from left, right, and center, 

So that there might actually be some respect generated among us.  You are said to love stories, Source of knowledge, Companion in our experiences along the path of life. 

Help us to create more stories of acceptance, understanding, and even partial reconciliation that can lead us forward....because we know how ridicule and revenge can only bring us down to where we should not go.    

Lead us to sit down and listen to one another. 

Remind us of the values of our national community and the tenets of any faith that we might follow that can lead us to the unity we so sorely need.   

Be with us on our journey.....

Benediction at Temple Beth-El – January 20, 2017

A Final Reflection on Sh’mot - and a response to the "Fractured Faiths" exhibit at the New Mexico History Museum that portrayed the migration of Crypto-Jews to this continent - and how the Inquisition found some of them.....a lesson for today

 

God of all peoples,

We approach you in prayer with the hope that our words will inspire us

to reach out in friendship to members of the human family representing all faiths and all backgrounds, all cultures and all ideologies.

We know, however, that at times, the fear of the other

Can overtake leaders of nations and their citizens

Resulting in programs of enslavement, expulsion and execution

Carried out to the point of obsession

As if nothing else in life mattered

As if the ability to see the divine image in every person

Had been lost to the detriment of a community or nation.

The Israelites in Egypt,  the Jews of Spain, Jewish communities in Europe during World War II and even Crypto-Jews who came to this continent several hundred years ago,

some seeking escape from tyranny or seeking just to survive,

Eventually found no refuge, gained no respite from hatred.

Rulers and community members forgot the good those people had done

And The contributions they had made to knowledge, to culture, and to the richness of faith.

Who knows what was lost from those who were put to death

Because their firm commitment to the heritage of their birth persisted

And they were discovered by those seeking to root them out?

Who knows what the world would be like today

If faith officials and national leaders had sought to be inclusive and open-hearted

Rather than inflexible and fixated on those people whom they saw as a threat

But were only trying to live their lives with treasured beliefs intact?

Guide us today, Eternal One,

To keep our eyes and ears open

So that we can combat ruthless targeting of enemies,

Bullying of ideological opponents,

And the perpetuation of hatreds that should have ended long ago.

When we recite the words of the Psalmist,

“How good and how pleasant it is when people dwell together in unity,”
Help us, God of all ages, to teach others that it will not be because of the victory of one perspective over another that we will thrive –

It will be through reaching understanding, encouraging open discussion, and achieving meetings of the mind and compromise that we can move forward not only as a nation but as a worldwide community. 

Help us, Source of compassion and justice, to always put humanity, created in Your image, first in our minds, in our hearts, and in our work to heal the world.

 

Preserving our Legacy - Parashat Vayechi (a tribute to Martin Luther King, Jr. and to Jacob) - January 13, 2017

“Like anybody, I would like to live a long life. Longevity has its place. But I'm not concerned about that now. I just want to do God's will. And He's allowed me to go up to the mountain. And I've looked over. And I've seen the Promised Land. I may not get there with you. But I want you to know tonight, that we, as a people, will get to the Promised Land! And so I'm happy, tonight. I'm not worried about anything. I'm not fearing any man! Mine eyes have seen the glory of the coming of the Lord!”

     Many of you will recognize that excerpt from Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s last speech, delivered in Memphis, Tennessee on April 3, 1968, the night before he was assassinated.    

     I still wonder how he could offer thoughts and words so timely, as if he knew what was going to happen the next day.  What is more likely is that his awareness that he was a walking target led him to make that declaration publicly at least once.  What was important about what he said was that he knew that his legacy was intact.  He had developed a movement.  He had galvanized the desires and hopes of people who needed faith and optimism.  King realized that while he was a leader in the struggle for expanded civil rights, he could not be the only voice if goals for equality were to be reached.  We can see today that there are many people who pay tribute to Martin Luther King, Jr. through their work for civil rights and voting rights, which are political battles that are not yet totally won in a way that acknowledges everyone’s place in society.    The poverty that King hoped to alleviate still is with us.  The peace in the world that he sought has not come to fruition.  It was apparent from what he declared in his last speech that King knew that there would be others to take up the mantle of his dreams and his vision in the future. His words reverberate in our minds when we consider what we still must do.  

    Like Martin Luther King, Jr., each of us has dreams, aspirations and a vision not just for ourselves but for life in the human community.     We act on those values in our relationships and as citizens who have an opportunity to make an impact on our corner of the world.   Last night, in our discussion session on the book WISE AGING (by Rabbi Rachel Cowan and Dr. Linda Thal), each participant drew, on a sheet of paper, a depiction of a “river” of his or her life, noting the most important events along the way and identifying people who were present at those moments. Each of those visual life reviews identified what was meaningful and significant throughout the years, both in terms of personal achievement and in work that touched others in a way that left a lasting impact.    Looking at the sweep of a lifespan, even on paper, can invokes a sense of awe, amazement and satisfaction, if we allow ourselves to see what we have done as a complete legacy at any given time.

Twelve Tribe Window
Temple Beth-El
Las Cruces, NM

Twelve Tribe Window
Temple Beth-El
Las Cruces,NM

    In the Torah reading for this week, Jacob, who was nearing death, realized that he needed to leave his children and grandchildren a legacy in the form of a blessing, words that would stay with them and be passed on to future generations.    Jacob had received a spiritual inheritance from his parents and grandparents,  and he wanted to be certain that the next generations understood how important they were as the descendants of Abraham and Sarah and as Jacob’s children and grandchildren.   When Jacob first arrived in Egypt, Pharaoh met him and immediately asked how many years he had lived.  Jacob responded: “The years of my sojourn [on Earth] are one hundred and thirty. Few and hard have been the years of my life, nor do they come up to the life-spans of my fathers during their sojourns.”    After seeing Joseph for the first time in many years, it was clear that Jacob wasn’t quite ready to convey or even feel relief and joy at the reunification of his family.  Eventually, he would find that contentment after living for a time in Egypt.    Jacob would bless his sons with individual characterizations that conveyed their personality, expressions that are portrayed in the stained-glass windows here on the bimah.   My favorite statement from Jacob is his blessing of his grandsons, “May God make you like Ephraim and like Manasseh.”  At that moment, Jacob could have told them all about himself and focused on his own life experiences, recounting his challenges and the travail that he felt when he spoke to Pharaoh.  Instead, he was ready to look towards the future.  When he brought the two boys close to him, he created a memorable encounter that solidified the link between them and their family, all the way back to their great-great grandparents.  In telling them that future generations would offer blessing using THEIR names, Jacob thrust Ephraim and Manasseh into the spotlight, a central position that would require them to visibly preserve the heritage that was being handed down to them.   They would need to discover God as Jacob had at Beth-El.  They would need to wrestle with God or with themselves to reach their highest potential.   They would also, hopefully, retain and nurture the faith that began with Abraham’s realization that the existence of one God could lead them to a vision of one humanity that would, one day, find peace.

    Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and Jacob in the bible left something significant to their followers and their family that would stay with them for the coming generations.   As we consider our own legacies, who will carry on our mission?  Who will take our achievements and add their own enhancing touch to them in a way that honors us? Who will learn from our wisdom and values?   Who will be inspired by our vision of a promised land to the point of engaging in action that will make real the goals for which we have worked throughout our lives?   There are likely people whom we know or whom we don’t know who share our values, who will apply those principles in a way that will spread kindness, goodness, understanding,  and a richness of spirit that constitutes a promised land that will offer many members of the human family help and hope.  Like Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and like Jacob,  we will not fear, because all we are and all we do will offer blessing to everyone around us.  May that be the legacy we leave. 

    

Our light - column for the Las Cruces Bulletin on January 6, 2017

   It is likely that the symbol that most people would identify with the Jewish community and Judaism from ancient times would be the six-pointed star or hexagram, widely known as the Star of David. 

   Actually, the oldest symbol of Judaism and the Jewish community is the 7-branched candelabra, called in Hebrew menorah.   

    The biblical book of Exodus records the command to fashion a "lampstand of pure gold," with seven branches.   Each branch of the menorah featured on top ornamentation in the shape of almond blossoms.  This was significant because the almond tree blooms early (in January) in the land of Israel, so early that it was viewed as having an eternal quality.  It was a short "leap" to link the almond tree to the Tree of Life (in the story of the Garden of Eden).  

    A symbol bearing light, which can light up the darkness at any time of year, was created in the shape of a tree that represented the endurance of life itself. 

    At this writing, lights are still up around town (and in many, many more places) as the celebration of Christmas continues to its conclusion, following the kindling of lights during Advent leading up to the holiday.  Many find these lights, in whatever form, captivating. 

     The lighting of a new candle on a kinara each night from December 26 to January 1 to observe Kwanzaa highlights values based in African traditions that reflect both particular and universal messages.  The glow of these candles offers inspiration to strengthen personal character and a sense of communal responsibility. 

     When most people hear the word menorah, they think of the candelabra that Jews light on Chanukah, an eight-day holiday that celebrates a victory for religious freedom by Jews of Judea against their Syrian Greek rulers.  Led by Judah Maccabee and his brothers, the Jews reconsecrated and rededicated the Temple in Jerusalem as a place of Jewish worship.  They celebrated their victory for eight days, lighting the Temple menorah which had not been lit for three years.   

     The story of a container of oil being found that was expected to last for one day, but burned for eight days, added a touch of drama and sanctity to the holiday.   In Jewish tradition, Chanukah is not a major holy day, but the light on the 9 branched Chanukah menorah, also known as a Chanukiah, is considered to be holy.  With each additional night, the glow of the candles increases in intensity.   There is beauty, wonder, spirit, history, determination, strength and hope contained in those lights.  

    Perhaps similar values are brought to mind for many people as they behold the lights that are a part of their own traditions and cultures at this and other times of the year. 

   Recently, at Temple Beth-El, we dedicated new front doors which bear a stylized menorah.

    At the recent ceremony to consecrate these new doors, I offered this interpretation:   "During the day, these doors allow light to come in and to sense when someone has a desire to enter our space to join us.  At night, we can see the light from within shine forth into the night.

     As these doors allow light in, may we be open to the lights of learning, freedom, friendship, love, and hope so that they can suffuse our spirits.  As these doors reveal the light within to the darkness of the outside world, may we share our lights with our community, the lights of wisdom, wonder, creativity, commitment, kindness, and peace." 

    There is light inside of each of us that we can share.  There is light outside of us that, if we welcome it, can lead us to personal growth and new understanding, and bring us closer to one another.  Our combined light can, if we will it, illumine any darkness we may encounter.